How to Teach a Kid to Drive

The past 17 years, I've been watching this boy grow up. Just yesterday he was in the back seat telling me stories...turning classical instrumental music from the radio into an hilarious narrative by describing what he was hearing. Telling me what the shape of the bird poop on the window reminded him of. Now he's in the front seat, driving me around. Driving his little brother around. Driving, y'all. DRIVING.

It does seem like the last big pragmatic thing I've got to teach him about how to take care of himself. It's both a sad and a proud moment.

And he's more than just driving his car now, he's driving his own life. Without me.

It's freeing but at the same time there's the empty feeling of not being needed anymore. It was the one last thing he needed me for, and now he doesn't seem to need me at all. I've had to teach him all the things he needs to know to be independent – and now he is, dang it.

It Takes a Village
Being the parent of an almost-gone child leaves me feeling a bit unnecessary. I am still a mother, but not in the caretaker sense of the word anymore. It's more of just a figurehead title now, instead of a description of what I do. I rely on my good friends Sheri, Melody, and Chris to talk me off the ledge every weekend at coffee. They help me try to come to terms with my old new self.

It not only takes a village to raise a child, it takes a village to teach the child's mother that they have purpose beyond just being a mother.

I don't know what I'd do without their advice, their group problem-solving on my behalf, and their support. What I've learned from my best friends and other lovely Oak Cliff neighbors is that it's perfectly normal to feel unnecessary when you have such a responsible teenager. It stinks, but, it's normal.

We discuss this big life changes and more every weekend at our neighborhood coffee shop. If you have a problem that needs solving, you know to just show up for the "Housewives of Oak Cliff" coffee on Saturdays and Sundays at Bolsa Mercado.

Teaching Quinn to Drive
So this past year, I taught Quinn how to drive a car. Really, mostly he did it himself, and I just sat back and watched. He researched how to get a learner's permit on-line, and figured the whole process out. He scheduled his own appointment at the gigantic driver's supercenter in Garland to take the written test. It's one of the last things I had to drive him to. He took care of getting his transcript and all the other necessary paperwork, and even paid the fee on site in cash using his own money.

After securing his learner's permit, he printed out a schedule of what he needed to learn based on the actual driving test. Then, we methodically tackled each driving task, practicing until he mastered it (which as I was not surprised) did not take him very long at all. This seemingly Herculean task included parallel parking. My friends suggested I set up trashcans a car length apart in front of my house and have Quinn parallel park in that space between pretend cars. And that worked very well.

Turns out Quinn drives like he does everything else...methodically, unemotionally, rationally, intelligently. And quickly. I don't mean he drives quickly, I mean he quickly figures out the best way to drive, the safest methods, the best routes, the strategies for defensive driving. My friends have known Quinn since he was a preschooler and Melody was confident he'd be just like that. She was right.

Over the course of his junior year, last year, we drove every weekend. I'd ask Sheri about the different things she taught her son when he was learning to drive, so I wouldn't forget anything: highways, at night, in the rain… all three of those at the same time. I was trying to cover every possible driving scenario, so he'd have experience in every situation.

My Best Parenting Advice
When you slowly teach a child to do something big and important and take the time to let them master it over and over until they feel comfortable, they will always succeed. It's when we just throw them into the deep end of the pool and say "sink or swim" that we set them up to fail. Taking the extra time to teach them and help them become an expert themselves is worth it for both of us.

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Activewear for Moms: 8 Finds for Sweating Pretty

There are lots of reasons for moms to exercise throughout the week (besides being somewhat ALONE for more than 5 minutes). Whether it's to lose weight, sleep better or take out any stress, working out will make you a stronger and more confident mother. And what better way to kick off your new routine than with new gear and clothes!

Click on the activewear slideshow to see activewear items that will keep you motivated for that workout. We'd love to know what motivates our readers to exercise! Feel free to post a comment here at the end of this post…best song to work out to? Favorite type of workout? Best gym?

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Nike Dri-Fit Ikat Bra, $26.99 from

Gap Foldover Yoga Pants, 16.96 from Gap

Frends Ella Earbuds, $99 from Urban Outfitters

Nike Gym Vintage Tank, $30 from Zappos

Athletic Bike Shorts, $13.99 from Sears

New Balance Athletic Shoes, $81.99 from

Tracksuit, $58.99 from Cafe Press

Yoga Tank Top, $24.99 from

Obviously Nelli has to write a post about working out, because as y'all know, I do not understand the point of sweating on purpose. Nelli, however, is all over it. So she pulled together her recommendations on the right gear so that y'all are sweating pretty. ~ Lea Ann

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10 Cute Backpacks for Boys and Girls

Dinosaurs, kitties, Ninja Turtles. Send your little kiddos back to school this year with a backpack they'll love. We've rounded up 10 adorable backpacks that will delight the little ones as they prepare for a new school year. Because as you know, it's more than just a bag to hold your books…it's your personality and status symbol!

School Backpack Tips: 
Go through your kid's backpack looking for homework assignments, notes from the school, stray crayons that could melt in there (yep, that happens here in Texas) as soon as they come home from school (not the morning before they run out the door). This will reduce your stress in the morning!

Add a luggage tag to your kid's backpack, so that if it gets separated from your kid in after school activities or left at the bus stop, everyone will know who to return it to. You can put their school and teacher's name on the tag, instead of their home address to protect their personal information.

Have a place by the front door (a bench, a chair, a hook) to keep your kid's backpack. Hang it there when they get home. Hang it back up there when they finish their homework. Make sure it's hanging there when they go to bed so there's no searching for it in the morning.

Girls Backpacks

Boys Backpacks
Pokemon, $9.74

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5 Back-to-School Books for Kids

Hi readers! Let me introduce you to my new writer, Nelli. She's going to be adding lots of good stuff to Mommy's Wish List. Here's her first post, with a little help from Luka.

Grab some fun and educational books while you're out back-to-school shopping for the kids this month. Surprise your children with inspiring books that will boost their morale and make learning fun!

Diary of a Wimpy Kid, Box of Books 1- 4, $40.32:  The collectible box set of Diary of a Wimpy Kid comes with all four entertaining books.

Captain Awesome and the New Kid, $3.95:  Catch up with Captain Awesome in this book series. The novel will keep kids'  imaginations going!

101 School Jokes for Kids, $5.49:  These friendly jokes will keep the kids in high spirits.

Little Penguin Finger Puppet Book, $14.55:  Little Penguin and friends play hide-and-seek on the ice, and invite the smallest readers to play, too.

Storybook Stew: Cooking with Books Kids Love:  This book features easy-to-follow recipes and activities. It's a great read for group parties and sleepovers, too.

You'll also find 5 books that Luka recommends for 5-7 year olds here.

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